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Hmm, long time no post. I just don't seem to be in the mood for posting lately, I'll often start typing a post and then think "meh, no one wants to read this arb crap". But here's an updatey post anyway :).

My lovely husband bought me a spinning wheel for my birthday! It's a second-hand Ashford Traditional Double-drive (if that means anything to you :P). I'm very excited, I can't wait to start spinning my lovely alpaca and merino rovings that I have. Also, there's a large demand for second-hand wheels so if I don't take to it I can sell it on. P is always surprised by the market for knitting stuff :). My cats are enjoying the wheel, of course anything I bring into the house is a cat toy. Also, Scroob sent me some delicious Camelspin! It's the best yarn ever.

Tickets to Germany are booked and paid for. We're also staying a night in Amsterdam, I'm really keen to see the van Gogh museum. Thank you to all those who contributed to the Honeymoon Fund, I think P sent out thank you emails last night. If you didn't get one and should've then please let us know. It was so hectic that I wouldn't be surprised if some of the cards got misplaced.  There are some wedding pics up at my Flickr stream, we have more that we need to upload.

Now that I'm married I think my biological clock has started to tick. Obviously it was just waiting for the wedding since for the past few years I've been non-committal on the having babies issue. Yes, they're cute and sweet and cuddly but they take up time and money that could be spent on other things like travel and knitting. Also, you don't get any sleep or time to read and there's screaming and tantrums and vomit and then they hit teenagerdom and it's a whole new batch of horrors. Having spent time with P's mum recently I'm beginning to see the reason for having kids. She said that she'd always wanted kids so that she wouldn't be alone when she was old and I think that now that she's a widow it's even more true. I know that statistically I will outlive P and I don't want to be the lonely widow aunt with 39 cats (well, the cat part isn't so bad). At any rate, babies are beginning to not look so bad. The cuteness of Scroob's baby isn't helping at all :P. I think I need to babysit more to reawaken me to the horrors of babies/small children. I think a few good tantrums and vomits will help me see reason and tell my clock to stfu :).

I'm dying of hayfever at the moment too, which is making me a very grumpy panda. I'm not looking forward to the weekend away SCA event next month, the venue is full of flowers and grass and I usually spend the entire time sniffling in the hall. I need a bubble. I also need to finish sewing all my new garb (Saxon, v boring but easy and comfortable until I know what I want to do).

See, a very boring post :P.

Date: 2009-10-27 01:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
He he, I have this mental picture of you spinning and ticking like some kind of fertility bomb... these thing pass, if not jsut another kitty! :)


Date: 2009-10-28 07:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I think I have reached my quota of kitties. Srsly, I don't have any more lap for more cats.

An alpaca, on the other hand, would be awesome and probably wouldn't require any lap.

Date: 2009-10-27 10:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
meh, no one wants to read this arb crap

I quite like reading friends' ramblings about what they're up to. Even mundane stuff tends to be interesting because (1) I'm interested in the people and (2) it's usually different to the mundane stuff I do.

I often post about things I doubt many (or even any) of my readers will be interested in. I do write partly for readers but also partly for myself so even if no-one else cares, there's still a point to it. The great thing about the interweb is that if readers are too busy or simply don't care, they can just skip it. Though I suspect there are more silent lurking readers than one would think.

I am rather bad at predicting what will generate comments and what won't. Though comments are not necessarily a measure of how interested readers are.

One man's interesting is another man's emo crap

Date: 2009-10-28 07:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I feel bad when I post really arb boring crap. I know it's my journal and ppl don't have to read it, but I feel like I'm taking up internet space which could be better used for webcomics or something.

I do like reading diary-style ramblings, though. I also like the emo posts (but only from ppl who don't _only_ post emo crap). I admit to skipping the really technical posts :P.

Date: 2009-10-28 06:53 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I only became a decent human being once I spawned... something about learning to be less selfish when I didn't even realize I was. Not helping P... sorry!

Now I want more... so I just have to pin down a man...

But in the mean time I am going back to uni to study law... so that if I do have more children I can maintain my ratio of more degrees than children! These things are important... besides children offer almost never ending opportunities for psychological experimentation...

The Borg

Date: 2009-10-28 07:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I've heard from lots of parents that they didn't want kids but now that they have them they can't imagine life without them. Also that they used to think they would miss doing their own stuff but now they just want to spend every moment with their kids. I'm not sure about that, it's a bit like mind-control.

Re: The Borg

Date: 2009-10-28 08:39 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Hah! You *know* that last isn't true. My children are fabulous and delightful (and totally better than anyone else's) and it's an awesome responsibility to be their parent. But spend every moment with them? Drives me nuts! There's only so long (about 1.5 seconds) that I can be Mummy Tinkerbell.

Do you really have friends who say that? I know I'm not one, the way I haul you in to babysit all the time, and the way the thought of being a stay-at-home mother turns me into a gibbering wreck

Re: The Borg

Date: 2009-10-28 08:43 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I do have friends who say that! "I used to spend all my time laying about a reading/playing computer games and I thought a kid would take me away from that and I would miss it. But now that I have a kid I would rather be with her than do anything else and I don't even miss the reading/computer games." It was scary, man, like some sort of brainwashed cultist.

Babies: more sinister than Scientology.

Re: The Borg

Date: 2009-10-28 08:48 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I totally miss the computer games. I haven't played anything for years. And reading, well, I have far less time for reading now and it hurts, it really does. I need to make time at the expense of other things, sometimes work, sometimes children.

I'm brainwashing K nicely, though. She's starting to sound out words now and I'm getting all rapturous about how much there is to read out there! So many stories! So much to learn! You can read every minute of your life and you still won't run out of stories! Perhaps I should get her Harry Potter for Christmas...

Date: 2009-10-28 07:50 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Go on, take the leap.
I'll baby sit.

Ah hahahhahahahahahahah

Date: 2009-10-28 07:58 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I change my mind about kids literally every 2 minutes. I might start seriously thinking about it in 3 years' time.

I got lectured by the fabric cutter at Fabric City on Saturday. I mentioned I was 29 and she was all like "omg, you don't have much time left! It gets really difficult after 30, you should start immediately, like now, run home and get started!"

Time is short.

Date: 2009-10-28 01:31 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Haha - I've been told I've got a year and half left before I have to be married. Ideally I should have a kid, or at least be pregnant, by the time I'm 30. When I smile politely, I'm told that I'll soon come round [?].


Re: Time is short.

Date: 2009-10-28 01:34 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Exactly! My female relatives are all "oh, you _say_ you don't want children? What do you know, silly girl. Just wait until you reach your 30's and your clock starts ticking, _you'll change your mind_". It's the mind control thing, I swear. I will not be a slave to my hormones! I will think rationally!!! I have a "breeding checklist" that I'm determined to stick to and one of the boxes is "lose lots of weight", we'll see how that goes :P.

Re: Time is short.

Date: 2009-10-28 04:29 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Yeah. I'm somewhat indifferent to the idea of children - I'm not looking to have any but I am open to discussing the idea. There is just an extensive checklist :P

Re: Time is short.

Date: 2009-10-28 04:40 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
People who say that sort of thing ("just wait until you are...") are often the people who are least comfortable with their own life choices, maybe envy your youth or lifestyle... or who barely realise they have been making a series of choices by following in sheep-like fashion what they see as cultural norms. In addition, that "what do you know" stance discounts your current opinion on the grounds that it may change later. So what? It is your opinion now and should be respected as such.

So this is not what concerns you... you're worried about a sudden influx of hormones... but I get really, really annoyed by those sorts of "I'm older / wiser than you, I know better" statements. Argh.

Re: Time is short.

Date: 2009-10-29 10:58 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Those 'older = wiser = better than you' statements can drive me into a uncharacteristic rage where I have to deliberately think of something else until the moment passes.

There is also the other idea that just because they are crap at their life choice, everyone else is going to follow the same pattern and be just as crap as they are... Blugh...

Re: Ah hahahhahahahahahahah

Date: 2009-10-29 03:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
29 is still young by European standards. It's different elsewhere - I remember being asked in Cape Town, at the age of 17, how many children I had and being met with incredulity when I said I had none. Perhaps it does get a bit more difficult after 30, but that's really not the issue, as you know.

Having said that, I think there are definitely two risks that someone contemplating timing and children should be aware of.

First, screaming kiddie cuteness (wonderful joy that it is) is by no means guaranteed, at any age. I know several couples in different age-groups who had serious trouble going forth and multiplying - it took six years for one couple, for example. Infertility is an increasingly common problem (pollution?); and infertility treatment can be _extremely_ expensive, regardless of whether it works or not (unless you're extensively insured). The clock does run for a long time, but it eventually stops.

Second, older pregnancies are riskier. The chance of bearing a child with chromosomal abnormaities (the most famous is Down Syndrome) rises with age. I think it starts rising substantially from 33 or 34, but I know that by 35 a first pregnancy is considered risky. Children with Down's can live good lives, but it does make parents' job a bit more complicted, and I know that many women choose to terminate a pregnancy for precisely this reason (a recent report said that 90% of affected women in the UK do so). There are two kinds of test one can do for this during pregnancy. The non-invasive type (blood test + specialised ultra-sound) carries no risk for the foetus while giving a percentage risk of (e.g.) Down's; while the invasive type (amniocentesis) gives certainty at the cost of a small risk of miscarriage (1% according to our doctor) or other complications. These are tough issues, and given that risk rises with age, the longer you wait the greater the likelihood that you'll be confronted with them.

And, what Kadekraan said.

Re: Ah hahahhahahahahahahah

Date: 2009-10-30 02:03 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Re: falling fertility
It's gotten to the stage where it's being picked up by mainstream media. Example: it's the cover story in the October 31st 2009 edition of The Economist (

Date: 2009-11-06 01:07 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Will stay tuned as to baby decisions. And other news too :-).
and, I always enjoy friends updating blogs.


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